What I Said
When you brushed off something hard your friend Owen shared, and he's been cooler with you since.
Before You Start
- Repair is owning what I did — not performing how sorry I am.
- Name the specific miss, not a vague 'sorry if it bothered you.'
- If they say 'it's fine, drop it,' I don't have to take that exit.
What Am I Walking In With?
What I actually said or did:
What they probably needed from me instead:
The version of 'sorry' I'm tempted to hide behind:
What Makes Owning It Hard
- I want to add 'but' and explain why I said it
- I'd rather call myself a bad friend than name the specific thing
- If they say it's fine, I want to let it drop and escape
- I want them to reassure me that we're okay
- Something else:
What Matters Most
Not how forgiven I feel — what's the one thing I want them to hear me own?
Ways I Could Open It
- “Hey — can I say something about last week?”
- “When you told me about work, I brushed it off. That wasn't right.”
- “I think I made it smaller than it was.”
When They Stay Guarded
- “I don't want to drop it if it's still there.”
- “That's fair.”
- “I know it mattered to you, and I didn't treat it that way.”
- “You're right. I get it.”
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