Setting the Frame
When you want to tell your son you miss feeling close, without making him feel summoned.
Before You Start
- An invitation is only an invitation if they can still say no.
- You don't have to name everything up front — just open the door.
- The goal is to feel close again, not to get answers tonight.
Why You Want To Talk
What I miss about how things used to feel:
What I notice between us lately:
What I'm hoping for from one talk:
What Makes This Hard
- I'm worried they'll think they're in trouble
- I'm afraid they'll shut down or go quiet
- I might come on too strong without meaning to
- I'm nervous they haven't noticed the distance like I have
- Something else:
What Matters Most
Not what I want them to do — what do I most want them to feel from this?
Try An Opening
- “Nothing bad — I just miss feeling close. Could we talk sometime, when you're up for it?”
- “Not a big thing — just a check-in, whenever it feels okay.”
- “Honestly, I want to listen more than I want to talk.”
When It Gets Difficult
- “No rush at all — whenever feels easier.”
- “We can pick another time if today's not good.”
- “I didn't mean to make it a big deal.”
- “I just wanted you to know it's on my mind.”
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