Just Checking In
When your friend Emma has gone quiet for weeks, and you want to reach out without making her feel watched.
Before You Start
- A check-in that can be declined is an actual check-in.
- You can let them know you're there without asking for a reply.
- Normal can be easier for them to receive than concern right now.
What You've Noticed
What I've seen change with them lately:
What I'm worried about underneath it:
What I want them to feel from hearing from me:
What Makes This Hard
- "You've been MIA" might sound like I'm keeping count
- A plan might ask for energy they don't have
- I'm tempted to doubt them if they say they're fine
- I don't want my concern to feel like surveillance
- Something else:
What Matters Most
What's the one thing I most want them to know, with no reply needed?
Try An Opening
- “Thinking about you. No need to reply.”
- “Here if you ever want — no rush.”
- “(Send the dumb thing you'd usually send them. No words.)”
When It Gets Difficult
- “Okay — here whenever you want.”
- “No pressure either way.”
- “I'll leave it with you.”
- “Just wanted you to know I'm around.”
StayIn · Conversations move. So can you.