It Wasn't That Bad
When you finally say something that's weighing on you, and the person waves it off.
Before You Start
- You don't have to prove it was bad enough to count.
- You can state your experience without arguing theirs.
- The goal is to be heard, not to win the point.
What Actually Hit You
The thing I want them to hear:
How it actually landed for me:
What I'm hoping for by saying it:
What Makes This Hard To Hold
- I'm afraid they'll say I'm being dramatic
- I might back down the second they push
- I don't want to turn it into an argument
- Part of me wonders if it really is a big deal
- Something else:
What Matters Most
If only one thing gets across, what do I want it to be?
A Way To Start
- “For me, it kind of was a big deal.”
- “It still hit me hard, though.”
- “I wasn't asking you to fix it — I just wanted to say it out loud.”
When They Brush It Off
- “Maybe. It still hit me, though.”
- “I'm in my own version of it.”
- “It still feels unsteady to me.”
- “I just wanted you to hear it.”
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