Bringing Up Distance
When you've felt far from Ryan for weeks, and you want to name it without making it worse.
Before You Start
- Naming distance works when it invites, not when it accuses.
- You can say what you want instead of what's wrong.
- The goal is to be near them, not to settle a score.
What You've Been Feeling
What the distance has felt like for me:
What I miss about us:
What I want from naming it now:
What Makes This Hard
- "We should talk" might make them brace right away
- I'm afraid they'll think they did something wrong
- They tend to pull back when things get relational
- I might put the distance on them instead of owning my part
- Something else:
What Matters Most
What's the one thing I most want them to hear under all of it?
Try An Opening
- “I've been missing you. Want to do something tonight?”
- “Nothing to worry about — I just want to hang out.”
- “I've been kind of in my head lately too, honestly.”
When It Gets Difficult
- “We can talk later, when you're not slammed.”
- “Didn't mean to set off any alarms.”
- “Nothing heavy — I just want to be near you.”
- “I'm here whenever it feels easier.”
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