Angry Reaction
When someone close shows up furious at you, and the anger is covering something underneath.
Before You Start
- Staying steady will do more than arguing back.
- Their anger is probably hurt and exhaustion wearing a louder face.
- You can own your part without collapsing into apology.
What They're Actually Carrying
What they're angry about, in their words:
What might be underneath the anger:
The part of this that's honestly on me:
What Makes This Hard
- I'll want to defend myself before they're done
- I might tell them they're overreacting
- I'll want to flip it back onto them
- Owning it will feel like losing
- Something else:
What Matters Most
What's the one thing I want them to know I actually get?
Ways To Start
- “I hear you.”
- “Yeah. I get why it feels like that.”
- “I didn't think hard enough about that.”
When The Heat Rises
- “That part's on me too. I'm sorry.”
- “That's fair to be sitting with.”
- “I get it more than I did before.”
- “I'll check with you first next time.”
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